禪

 

法鼓山創辦人聖嚴法師一

禪法教導我們要活在當下、承擔責任，這可以說是時間管理的另一種詮釋，「當下」就是最好的時段，保持頭腦清楚，好好地欣賞它、享受它、運用它，這是最合算的。

別拿自己的鞋叫別人穿

 

法鼓山創辦人聖嚴法師一

總而言之，人與人的關係不是專講道理、專講公平的，而是要講倫理。只管自己有沒有做好，不要管別人有沒有做好。自己做好是應該的，其他人沒有做好的原因，不要用自己的標準來要求人、衡量人。我常講，不要拿自己的鞋子叫別人穿，不要把別人的問題變成自己的問題，而讓自己忿忿不平，這樣才不會使自己的人際關係惡化。

如何在工作中相互體諒？

 

大家一定聽過「敬人者，人恆敬之」、「禮尚往來」這兩句話，只要我們主動地尊敬、讚歎、肯定他人，那對方也會尊敬、讚歎、肯定我們。

反過來說，如果你是一個非常傲慢，而且動作粗暴的人，別人也會以傲慢、粗暴的態度回應你，那我們所處的社會、家庭等環境就會因你而被污染了。就好像是帶著病菌的人，將病菌傳染給周圍的人，結果一傳十、十傳百，一下子就變成流行的傳染病；但相反的，如果這個環境裡，很多人都感染流行病，而你不但已經打了預防針，而且還勸別人去治療，告訴他人怎樣把病治好，這樣，對於所處環境的問題與人就產生了淨化的功能。

這些道理大家都懂，可是我們常常會原諒自己，卻不能夠原諒他人；要求他人，卻不要求自己；常常把他人的缺點看得很清楚，卻故意忽略自己的缺點。因為人幾乎都是有惰性，而且是自私的，都希望他人給我們利益，卻不願意付出奉獻。

很多人雖然想要付出、奉獻，也有慈悲、寬容等提昇人品的觀念，但總缺乏實踐力。遇到狀況使不上力時，就自我安慰說：「畢竟我還是凡夫，慢慢來就好了……。」總是給自己找台階下，總是掩飾自己、袒護自己，卻不停地要求他人，這樣只會造成彼此之間的裂痕，無法透過包容體諒，相互提昇。

相互體諒，也可以從身儀、口儀、心儀，這三方面來做起。所謂身儀，就是日常生活的規矩，包括吃飯、走路時的威儀。口儀呢？就是要說讚歎、勉勵人的話，如果一開口就說粗話、俗話，那就是沒有口儀。

好的身儀或口儀都須以「心儀」為根本，所謂心儀，就是讓心隨時隨地有規範，心中經常保持平靜、喜悅，即使遇到非常惡劣的情況，還能夠甘之如飴。心儀，實際上就是鍊心、觀心，使自己的心不受外在環境所影響、所左右，不去想對錯。我常常說：「有理由的固然是理由，沒有理由呢？沒有理由也是理由！」

所以如果有人對你的態度不好，不要因此對這個人產生厭惡的心，因為他有這樣的狀況一定是有原因的，可以找個時間和他談心，主動給予關懷。你可以說：「這幾天看你的心情好像很不愉快，我想一定有原因，能不能告訴我究竟發生什麼問題？你要說出來，才能找到解決的辦法。」這樣一來，問題就容易弄清楚了，也許他根本沒有問題，也許是聽到什麼人說了一些讓人不舒服的話，也許只是你做了什麼事，讓他覺得很嚴重。

如果真的是自己做錯了事，就向對方道歉：「對不起！我不知道這樣做是錯的，我不是故意的，以後我會改進。」這樣就沒有事了。如果不是你的問題，而是他遇到其他不舒服的事，你可以安慰他，而且自己的心中不要產生煩惱。如果你心裡還有「這傢伙可能下次還會對付我」的想法，那你就是自尋煩惱了。

要常常提醒自己，別人發生了問題，一定是有原因的，不要因為他表面的反應而產生煩惱。所以，待人要有寬闊、柔和的心胸，無論在何時何地，都讓自己以及相處的人感到歡喜，廣結善緣，而沒有遺憾。如果抱持這種心態，無論身在何處，你一定是愉快的。

如何保有良善的品格

 

法鼓山創辦人聖嚴法師一

謙虛、慈悲、誠實是重要的品格，像是達賴喇嘛，他的謙虛、慈悲、誠實，非常值得我們學習。譬如在謙虛的部分，達賴喇嘛見到以前教過他的老喇嘛，都會非常恭敬的行禮；即使他是高高在上的法王，依然是這麼的謙虛。

慈悲的對象是以人為主，當然對螻蟻、動物也要有慈悲心。但如果是沒有原則的濫慈悲，反而會帶來麻煩。慈悲要對他人有利、有益，譬如，小孩不想讀書，不是打罵就能解決問題，而是要勸勉他、陪伴他，看他發生什麼問題，再慢慢地帶領，也許漸漸地就會轉好了。有的小孩還不到十五歲就要摩托車，如果父母順他的意給了，算是慈悲嗎？如果小孩因此發生車禍，那就不是慈悲了。慈悲一定是要為他設想，使他成長、安全、健康；表面上任由他為所欲為，並不是真正的慈悲。

至於誠實，誠實就是不要用欺騙的方式來對待人，要誠誠懇懇的。即使你是為了方便打個妄語，事後也一定要在適當的時間跟對方說明原因，請求諒解。如果萬不得已必須兜著圈子講話，還是要很誠懇地表達，不能夠隨便用矇騙的話來搪塞。

誠實就是要言語謹慎，不能夠輕易承諾、亂放話，或自我吹噓，否則會傷人傷已，所以要實事求是，不要誇大。沒有做的或正在構想中的事，不要馬上講出來，不然很容易給人一種「說得多、做得少」，或是「只說不做」的印象。另外，也可能因構想中的並不完整，屆時實際做的與原先構想的不一樣，那對方又會覺得自己「說一套，做一套」，因而對我們產生不信任。

所以誠實、謹言很重要。誠懇的態度就是不說謊、不騙人、不誇張，不說大話，也不說快話，這是我們該保有的良善品格。？

謙虛、慈悲、誠實是重要的品格，像是達賴喇嘛，他的謙虛、慈悲、誠實，非常值得我們學習。譬如在謙虛的部分，達賴喇嘛見到以前教過他的老喇嘛，都會非常恭敬的行禮；即使他是高高在上的法王，依然是這麼的謙虛。

慈悲的對象是以人為主，當然對螻蟻、動物也要有慈悲心。但如果是沒有原則的濫慈悲，反而會帶來麻煩。慈悲要對他人有利、有益，譬如，小孩不想讀書，不是打罵就能解決問題，而是要勸勉他、陪伴他，看他發生什麼問題，再慢慢地帶領，也許漸漸地就會轉好了。有的小孩還不到十五歲就要摩托車，如果父母順他的意給了，算是慈悲嗎？如果小孩因此發生車禍，那就不是慈悲了。慈悲一定是要為他設想，使他成長、安全、健康；表面上任由他為所欲為，並不是真正的慈悲。

至於誠實，誠實就是不要用欺騙的方式來對待人，要誠誠懇懇的。即使你是為了方便打個妄語，事後也一定要在適當的時間跟對方說明原因，請求諒解。如果萬不得已必須兜著圈子講話，還是要很誠懇地表達，不能夠隨便用矇騙的話來搪塞。

誠實就是要言語謹慎，不能夠輕易承諾、亂放話，或自我吹噓，否則會傷人傷已，所以要實事求是，不要誇大。沒有做的或正在構想中的事，不要馬上講出來，不然很容易給人一種「說得多、做得少」，或是「只說不做」的印象。另外，也可能因構想中的並不完整，屆時實際做的與原先構想的不一樣，那對方又會覺得自己「說一套，做一套」，因而對我們產生不信任。

所以誠實、謹言很重要。誠懇的態度就是不說謊、不騙人、不誇張，不說大話，也不說快話，這是我們該保有的良善品格。

換來換去換成仇

 

法鼓山創辦人聖嚴法師一

通常，我們付出越多，就能得到越多。雖然不一定成正比、得到有形的回饋，但無形的回饋一定能成正比地獲得，甚至能獲得更多。所謂無形的回饋，就是人格的成長、思想的成熟。一個人時時在成長中，一定能使自己更安定、更快樂、更穩重、更寬裕。

在人際關係上，雖然大家都說你不好，如果你不說人家不好，漸漸地，說你不好的人就會越來越少。如果我們一直覺得別人不好，而沒有檢討自己是不是也一樣，那麼人際關係一定是越來越差。當然，對自己來說，不一定是死路一條，但至少會過得很不快樂。

有些人在家待得不舒服，故而離家出走；到了外面，也覺得工作場所不舒服，常常想換工作。這樣不斷地換工作、換環境，到最後，自己走投無路，這是不善於與人相處，不善於接納人、包容人。本來他希望人人都能接納他、喜歡他，結果變成人人都不歡迎他，反而想盡辦法排擠他。所以人際關係要好，就要把心量放大，就要多接納人、包容人。如果只一意地要求人家接納自己，最後會人人都不接納自己的。

一般而言，人與人之間關係之所以尖銳化，是由於自己的貪、瞋、癡、疑、傲等。這些都是由於疏忽了人與人之間的倫理關係，忘掉自己的責任、忘了自己的本分，而老是在爭取、在計較。凡是心態上無法為人設想的人，通常煩惱都很重，各種各樣的煩惱都會出現。

譬如，看到人家得到利處，自己沒得到，就起妒嫉心。看到別人好，就起瞋恨心，覺得忿忿不平，不能平衡。自己已經擁有，但總是覺得不滿足、覺得不夠，於是，產生強烈的貪欲心，老是覺得︰人家有了的，自己還沒有；人家能有的，自己也應該有。這都會產生不平衡的情緒，因此造成無法與他人歡喜相處。

Doing Good For Others Is Contagious So Play It Forward, Think About It, Easy Life News.

What people see you do may not be remembered; what they hear you say may be forgotten; but how they feel your intervention in their times of need will forever be remembered.

The simplest acts of kindness are by far more powerful then a thousand heads bowing in prayer.  

There is nothing more beautiful than someone who goes out of their way to make life beautiful for others. Easy Life News.

We see baby diamondback terrapins hatching at the Wellfleet Bay Wildlife Sanctuary and talk to the volunteers who help them get a head start. 

“Many people are praying and their prayers go unanswered. Imagine if you decided to step in your role as a god and resolved to answer their prayers. How many prayers would be answered from now on? But no, you also keep your face hidden like other careless gods and keep your ears closed to their clamor.” ― Bangambiki Habyarimana, The Great Pearl of Wisdom 

國際觀

 

法鼓山創辦人 聖嚴法師--

一個有國際觀的人，會有恢宏的心量、深遠的眼光。對他自己、對全國人，都有幫助。

首先，他會考慮全人類的福祉，不會只看到個人的近利。所謂高瞻遠矚，對其個人，對於社會，均有助益。有國際觀的人，會以開明及理智的態度觀察事物，比較不會武斷地批評，也不太會杞人憂天。

泰然面對眾生相

 

法鼓山創辦人 聖嚴法師--泰然面對眾生相

要如何修煉？我常說，人要站穩現在而往未來看。有的人老是想到過去，有的人則常擔心未來，未來的事未可知，但願那是美好的，當要有迎接厄運光臨的心理準備，即使可能是一種最壞的結局產生。想想，還會有什麼事會比死更可怕？如果不幸必須坐牢，也還沒有到死的程度，何況坐牢也還沒有發生。現在還沒有發生的事就不需要緊張，只要檢討過去、計畫未來，而面對當下，步步踏實地向前走去，便是人生的歷練，就是一種修行的生活。

此外，如何使得自己的身心不受他人干擾，也很重要。不管發生任何情況，都宜當作是一種人間相、一種世間相，當作是處處都可能發生、隨時都可能發生的平常事。如何在沒發生情況以前，未雨綢繆化導轉無形；如何在發生情況以後，亡羊補牢用自己能夠運用的資源來處理、化解這些問題，心中只有需要處理的事，沒有被這些問題所困擾而造成的心結。

解決的方法很簡單，就是面對當下的世間相、眾生相，這就是人間相，接受它、處理它，然後放下它。一般的人都可運用這種觀點來為自己化解自己心中的問題，甚至幫助他人來化解問題。因此一個人的人生修為也可以影響另一個人、全家的人、全社會中的許多人。古今中外許多的偉大人格就是如此產生的。

許多人在諸事順利時，傲慢、自尊、自負、自信，總覺得他們自己是可以主宰一切、安排一切、負責一切的，因而疏於自我的約束和檢點，一旦遇到重大的挫折發生時，就會錯愕不已、自我失控而惹下大禍。

一個有修養的人，對於一切不如意的事，不求自己眼睛看不到，不求自己耳朵聽不到，不求自己接觸不到，但求自己不會被這些不如意的事所擊倒，但求能夠讓自己以及相關的他人，都能履險如夷，並且免受負面的影響而產生困擾。

心靈環保

 

 法鼓山創辦人 聖嚴法師一

提倡的「心靈環保」目標，就是讓自己過得健康、平安、幸福、快樂，同時盡力而為，讓周遭的人也能夠過得健康、平安、幸福、快樂。所謂的健康，就是身體沒有病痛，作息正常；心理健康則是不貪得無饜，也不失魂落魄，而是安於本分、盡分盡職，也就是安分守己。

什麼叫作快樂？快樂即是知足常樂，對於得不到的事不打妄想。雖然我曾以「有也好，沒有也好」這句話來勉勵大眾知足常樂，但這並不等於說最好是沒有，什麼都不要；而是說，基於因緣和自己的福報，當機會來的時候不放棄，成名也不放棄，有權也不放棄，可以用此名和權力來奉獻、服務社會。但是，如果是為了一己之私而得到這些，這將會是痛苦的，又會因為不滿足而變貪得無饜，已經得到的很可能就會失去。

譬如錢財就像流水一樣，很可能今天還掌握在手上，明天就流掉了，地位、名譽也是一樣。古訓有云：「窮則獨善其身，達則兼善天下。」也就是說，自己的機緣很好，不僅是因為個人的條件，還包括了這個時代的環境因素。有機會能夠站出來就兼善天下，使國家因為自己而得到利益；如果自己的條件不夠，或者因緣還沒成熟，沒有輪到自己的機會，至少要保持健康、快樂而不失望，這就是幸福的人生。

How To Make Amazing BBQ Sauce For Your News Family Gathering, Easy Life 101 News.

Barbecue sauces have a uniquely Southern and Western U.S. history.  Most experts agree that the practice of adding sauce and spices to meat and fish began early in our history, with Native Americans teaching the art to early European settlers.  The natives probably developed the process as part of an attempt to keep meats and fish from spoiling quickly.  Salt played a major role in those early barbecue sauces, and salt is a well-known preservative in the meat curing process.

Because the nations first European arrivals lived on the East Coast of America, that part of the country is credited with spawning the original barbecue sauce styles.  First and foremost, there are the various Carolina barbecue sauces.  The most widely known are East Carolina, Piedmont, and South Carolina varieties.  East Carolina barbecue sauce consists of vinegar, salt, black pepper, and crushed or ground cayenne peppers.  Its a very simple sauce that penetrates the meat nicely for a deep flavor.  Piedmont barbecue sauce only varies from East Carolina in that it often includes molasses or Worcestershire sauce and thus clings to the meat more.  South Carolina sauce is entirely different, using a mustard base instead, producing a much tangier and sharp flavor.

Then there is Memphis or Southern style barbecue sauce.  This popular variety is typically more complicated (flavor-wise) and is built around mustard, tomato, and vinegar.  Fans often point to the boldness of these flavor combinations as the hallmark of Memphis barbecue sauce.  A saying often heard among hungry connoisseurs is no two bites alike.

Continuing our trek westward, we come to the acknowledged center of the barbecue universe Kansas City!  Kansas City barbecue sauce is distinguished by its noticeably thicker consistency and emphasis on sweetness.  Thats because this style of sauce is built upon thick tomato sauce, chunks of vegetables, and lots of sugar.  Many popular commercial brands are based on this Kansas City recipe.  It’s most popular among amateur backyard grillers because of the availability in grocery stores (Kraft, Heinz, K.C.s Masterpiece, etc.).  And also because the thick sauce can be applied only once and enough will remain in place to please the happy recipients of the grilled meat.

Finally, there are the Texas barbecue sauce styles.  Now, Texas is one big state, and there are several regional varieties within it.  The most common include thick and spicy sauces that are essentially spicier variations on the Kansas City sauces.  These are found mostly in the north and east sections of the state (Dallas).  In western Texas, thinner sauces that feature hot peppers can be found.  These sauces are often added only at the very end of the barbecuing or grilling process.  And then, in southern Texas, the barbecue sauce of choice features an emphasis on Mexican spices and, of course, jalapeño peppers!  Make sure to have a cold beverage handy to put out the fire!

Finding Perfection In A Chocolate Rasperry Cake Resipe, Easy Life 101 News.

This is a moist chocolate cake recipe, it is a 3 layer cake with 2 layers of raspberry cream filling and topped with a chocolate raspberry butter cream icing. Are you salivating yet?
To make this cake use your favorite chocolate cake recipe or for the inexperienced baker just use 2 dark chocolate cake mixes.

Mix with

8 medium eggs

2 cups cold water

2/3 cup oil

Mix on medium speed until well blended, scrape bowl, mix for 1 more minute.

Pour in equal portions into 3 (10x2 inch baking pans).

Bake at 350 degree preheated oven for approximately 30 to 40 minutes or until done. Cool on rack, remove from pans, level cakes by cutting off rounded tops.

Purchase a good fruitful raspberry pastry filling (H&H) is the best, place about 1 pound of filling in a bowl and add whip cream to it (whip the cream first) now fold them together until you reach the desired flavor and thickness (don't make it too thin).

Use any chocolate butter cream recipe that you like and add to the icing (black raspberry extract) until you reach the desired flavor (if you make the icing too thin just add some more 10x sugar).

Assemble the cake:

On the bottom layer put a dam of icing around the edge and your filling in the center and smooth to level, repeat for 2nd and 3rd layer, decorate as in picture, use shaved chocolate or chocolate jimmies in center of the top.

How To Make The Best Pan Cakes In The World, Easy Life 101 News.

For either baking novices or seasoned pros, a dump cake is a no-brainer. To prepare one, you simply dump the ingredients into a bowl and beat them, then pour the batter into a pan and bake it. Although a dump cake is easy to make, it's just as good as a more fancy cake. Perhaps that's why dump cakes, including pound cakes, have been popular for hundreds of years.

The secret to the cake is in properly beating the ingredients, so follow these tips. Let the butter soften and take the eggs out of the fridge to warm a bit. For an airy batter, beat the softened butter and sugar really well until the creamed mixture looks pale and wispy. Beat in the eggs and vanilla until all the streaks are gone. Any curdling you might see will disappear as you beat. Turn off the mixer occasionally and scrape the batter at the sides of the bowl into the path of the beaters so everything gets thoroughly mixed.

Switch to low speed when you add the dry ingredients to keep the flour mixture from flying into the air. Since overbeating the flour can toughen a cake, beat only until the batter has no streaks. Stir in the chips by hand so the mixer does not break them.

Be sure the cake is done before you take it out of the oven. You can use either a cake tester, a thin metal wire with a knob on top, or a wooden pick. Gently push the tester into the middle of the cake and pull it out. If you see liquid batter on the tester, keep baking. If the tester comes out clean, remove the cake from the oven and let it cool. A silky-textured pound cake is rich and moist all by itself, so you don't need to frost it. Just slice and

enjoy!

Double Chocolate Pound Cake

1 loaf cake or 8 servings


Butter

Flour

1 1/4 cups all-purpose flour

1/4 cup unsweetened baking

cocoa

1/2 teaspoon salt

1 cup butter, softened

(2 sticks)

1 cup sugar

4 eggs

2 teaspoons vanilla

1/2 cup mini chocolate chips


With butter, lightly grease bottom and sides of 8 1/2 x 4 1/2 x 2 1/2 or 9 x 5 x 3-inch loaf pan. Dust with flour. Shake out excess flour. Set aside. With a sifter or mesh strainer, sift 1 1/4 cups flour together with the cocoa and salt into bowl or onto sheet of waxed paper. Set aside.

In large mixer bowl at medium speed, beat together butter and sugar until light and fluffy, about 3 to 5 minutes. Beat in eggs and vanilla until thoroughly blended, at least several minutes. At low speed, gradually beat in reserved flour mixture, 1/2 cup at a time, beating just until blended and no streaks remain. Stir in chips. Spread batter evenly in prepared pan.

Bake in preheated 325 degree F oven until cake begins to pull away from sides of pan and cake tester inserted near center comes out clean, about 60 to 70 minutes for 9-inch pan or 75 to 85 minutes for 8 1/2-inch pan. (If tester shows dark brown, you've hit a melted chocolate chip. Test again in another spot. To prevent overbaking, remove cake from oven as soon as no light brown batter shows on tester.) Cool on wire rack 10 minutes. With narrow spatula or knife, loosen cake from pan. Gently shake onto wire rack. Cool completely. To retain moisture, store cooled cake in plastic wrap. Serve plain or topped with fruit, ice cream or whipped cream, if desired.

報恩的方法

 

 法鼓山創辦人 聖嚴法師    ---

感恩不是嘴上說得甜甜的就可以了，否則是口惠而實不至，因此感恩之後要接著報恩。報恩是用你的體能、智能和財力；體能不好就要增長體力，智能不夠就要增長智能，財力不夠則要增長財源，總之就是要精進，精進於你的生活，用你自己所有的資源來報恩，奉獻給眾生。

報恩的方法很多，有直接的也有間接的，還有一種是廣度眾生、廣結善緣，然後把功德迴向給三寶、國家、父母、師長和一切眾生。所以，我們早晚迴向所念的〈迴向偈〉中就有迴向眾生一項，對一切的人、一切的對象都要用感恩的心。

眾生對你好，你說感恩；眾生對你不好，你也說感謝。如果是詐取你的財物或破壞你的婚姻怎麼辦？當然我們不需要當面感恩別人詐騙、感恩別人破壞自己的婚姻，可是事實往往相反相成，雖然他騙你，但上一次當學一次乖，好比付學費，下一次就不會被詐騙了。而婚姻被破壞，心裡已經很不舒服，還要感謝對方，的確不合理。但是內心不能有恨，要反省自己的另一半為什麼會被搶走？明白離婚的原因，未來懂得避免，就是成長，也是感恩。但是如果老是被詐騙，或老是離婚，那就是愚癡。學佛的人就是要學取經驗，用佛法來調心，經常保持法喜充滿。

懺悔

 

法鼓山創辦人 聖嚴法師-懺悔錯誤，轉變習氣

人有慚愧心才會真誠懺悔，而修行就是要靠不斷地懺悔。因為我們還是凡夫，我執很重，經常身不由己地犯錯。每天就像脫韁的野馬，工作時不想工作，只想吃草，貪心、占便宜，懶散、走捷徑，還有嫉妒、懷疑等種種煩惱，全都是圍繞著自私心而產生的。

學佛與沒有學佛最大的不同，就是犯錯之後有慚愧心。如果不知道犯錯，其他人提醒我們之後，就要懺悔。即使自己不以為錯，或者可能是對的，但是只要讓人感覺受傷害，讓人起煩惱，就是犯錯，就應該懺悔。這麼說佛教徒不是動輒得咎，什麼事情都不能做、什麼話也不能講了嗎？同樣一句話，有的講法讓人傷心，有的講法讓人歡喜且願意接受，何不選擇讓人歡喜、願意接受的方式呢？目的相同，產生的反應、結果不一樣，所以應該懺悔。

如果與人起了爭執，一定是你用的語言、表情、動作不太對勁，這時要懺悔，當面和對方說：「對不起！讓你煩惱了。」不管是對長輩或晚輩，對所有的人都應該要謹言慎行，經常以尊敬的態度來對待。尊敬並不是不溝通，而是選擇一種比較能讓對方接受的講法和肢體動作，譬如用請求的：「對不起！請你幫幫我的忙。」「對不起！請原諒我，我們一起來商討處理吧！」這總比用苛責、謾罵的態度好。所以，做為一個修行的人，應該隨時準備為自己的惡習氣懺悔，慢慢改正這些惡習氣。

通常我們爭執的對象是朝夕生活在一起的人，因為太熟悉所以不注重禮貌、態度，被指責了也死不認錯。小錯不認錯、大錯不認帳，就會起爭執。所以，先要尊重周遭的人，把他們都當成西方極樂世界的諸上善人、菩薩伴侶。西方極樂世界的諸上善人俱會一處，就是同修淨業的菩薩伴侶，這樣西方淨土還沒有到，人間淨土就出現了，這也就是《楞嚴經．大勢至菩薩念佛圓通章》講的「現前當來，必定見佛」。若在平常生活裡，見到的都是一尊一尊的菩薩，這樣修行就成功了。

如果發生問題，馬上要慚愧、懺悔，念阿彌陀佛。即使有人挑釁，也是一句佛號，不用理會他。而且因為念佛，沒有機會開口罵人，對方認為目的已經達成，猜想你已經認錯，就不會再罵你。其實你念佛，不僅為他消災，也為自己消業！所以，平常在生活裡，如果做錯了就應該懺悔，如果沒有錯，也可以說對不起。

智慧

 

法鼓山創辦人聖嚴法師一

不變的原則，又是另一回事。如果原則、方向一變再變，那就不能對社會大眾奉獻更多，對於自己的心理壓力也會增加很多。譬如，我會寫文章，我變成一個作家，好不好？我個人認為當一個作家，不如當一個和尚更適合。實際上，我從小就能寫，但是要看那一方面自己最能安心，對他人更有利益，就往這個方向走。

另外，專長和興趣最好能配合得當。比如，現在沒有興趣做別的事，只對某一項工作有興趣，那就去瞭解這項工作、朝這個方向發展。鎖定方向培養專長之後，就要盡力發揮、盡量努力深入，持之以恆，透天徹地去做，也可以不必管成敗的壓力了。

一個人只要鎖定方向，在努力的過程當中，一定會有許多的磨鍊、挫折，沒有關係，這是正常的事。在心理上要預備好會有困難出現、有挫折發生、有變故等著，如果有這種預備的心理，就沒有什麼壓力。預料中的事情發生了，能夠處理的就處理，不能處理的事就接受，然後暫且放下來，待因緣際會時再處理，這叫作智慧。

Ways To Motivate Yourself To Move Forward Bravely, Just Do It! Easy Live 101 News.

Quit thinking as far as apprehension. We're all liable of intuition in the negative rather than the agreed. We're occupied not needing things. That is fine and ordinary, yet there is no activity connected with not needing something. You can't choose to accomplish something on the grounds that you don't need another. That is not how it functions. That will simply keep you on the love seat, doing nothing.

Trepidation is unsafe for two reasons: An) It keeps you unmotivated. A negative objective isn't something you can go to activity on. Be that as it may, besides, B) It's depleting and debilitating. Living in trepidation sucks. It keeps you in a condition of interminable stress rather than activity. When you're depleted and depleted and stressed, you are not going to be persuaded. There's no two courses around it.

Characterize your objective and your arrangement to accomplish it. Since we make them think in the positive, you gotta recognize what you're getting positive about. Rather than, "I would prefer not to be destitute, poor, and carry on with my life in a condition of wretched neediness," you're considering, "I need to be monetarily secure." Awesome. Presently - what's your arrangement to accomplish that?

Indeed, for that particular case, you'd make some sort of wage arrangement. It would include making a financial plan, conceivably doing a reversal to class, or growing your business. You have solid strides toward your objective. In any case, for whatever you're confronting - be it weight reduction, doing great in school, or completing a fantasy - you have to make sense of what it is you need and exactly how you anticipate doing that. In the event that you truly need it, it won't be all that difficult to make sense of.

Keep it to only one. On the off chance that you have a huge amount of things on your schedule, some of the time it gets to be overwhelming and you wind up putting the rundown away and "handling it later." But in the event that you make them thing on that rundown of yours, that is it. That is feasible. It's possible and you can concentrate on it - spreading yourself slender over twelve won't do you or your objectives equity.

You can't center yourself in case you're not centered around a particular objective. Separate it into little pieces however much as could be expected. In the event that you will probably shave 5 years off your appearance, assault it a tiny bit at a time. Begin off with another workout routine and get that down. At that point, move to another cosmetics regimen. At that point, handle your closet. On the off chance that you don't parse it out, your cerebrum will raise it's arms (if brains had arms) up in surrender and you'll be left with no thought where to go or what to do.

Never Give In, Never Give Up, Because You May Be Closer To Victory Than Every Before, Easy Life News.

1. There's Always Someone Working Harder Than You Are.

Regardless of the possibility that you think you've done everything you would, you're be able to off-base. Everybody has a fantasy, objective and inspiration. It just depends how far you're willing to go to get what you need.

Achievement originates from being one of a kind and emerging among the group. On the off chance that you settle for sufficient, that is all you will be and somebody will surpass you.

2. No one's Perfect.

We are all human. Understanding that it's alright to commit an error is just part of the fight to that extreme objective. Taking in and advancing originates from accomplishing something incorrectly and being advised how to do it right.

Riding a bicycle without preparing wheels isn't a simple accomplishment, yet once we took in the cadence and how to be in control, it turned into an aptitude we wouldn't overlook. On the off chance that we quit after the main setback or the first occasion when we hear individuals scrutinize how we handle ourselves, we are relinquishing what could have been.

3. Achievement Isn't Rewarding If It's Easy.

Achieving that extreme objective ought to be an extraordinary minute. In the event that it wasn't the hardest thing of our lives, then we didn't accomplish it. Realizing that we did all that we could for ourselves as well as other people to procure that objective ought to be more remunerating than the genuine honor itself.

Behind each effective individual, there is a story and a long-battled venture for him or her to get to where he or she is today.

4. Demonstrate Others Wrong.

When somebody says you can't accomplish something, demonstrate that you can. Perused more, compose more, know more and work harder than the individual by you.

On the off chance that he or she runs two miles, run three. In the event that he or she burns through four hours chipping away at a task, burn through eight. Activities talk a considerable measure louder than words, so as opposed to whining and sulking about others view of us, make them gag on and spit up their words.

5. Rome Wasn't Built In A Day.

This is the most vital saying to recall when surrendering turns into a honest to goodness thought. No one can make a domain in a day; no business can turn into a multi-billion-dollar wander in one day, and no thought merits tossing in the junk on the off chance that every one of the stops haven't been hauled out yet.

There is a considerable measure to say in regards to revamping drafts in our lives, and now and again they should be reconsidered and altered various times before the completed duplicate can be distributed and celebrated.

流浪

 

一個人至少擁有一個夢想，有一個理由去堅強。心若沒有棲息的地方，到哪裡都是在流浪。（三毛）